Men Just Don’t Know What to Say
When it comes to the leading ladies in our lives, men are often times faced with the daunting and overly complex task of thinking on our feet. It’s not that we are strained to pay attention or that we lack the common reasoning of answering heavily pressurized questions intelligently. It is simply that your understanding of common sense and our understanding of common sense vary from time to time. For example, questions such as do I look overweight in this dress, which of my friends are attractive, would you like to watch the kids, or can you come with me during a very important game are just a few of the questions that men are not usually apt to answer. The answers may come out as yes, all of them, no, and after this play respectively (which could end up being another 30 minutes). But please take note that he is not very good at thinking on his feet. Ladies, proceed with caution if your significant other is able to answer the aforementioned questions quickly (the answers may pre-determined).
A good man wants to just make you happy and some men actually want to answer correctly. Thinking on our feet is not an attribute that many men possess, which also explains why women are better liars (situational fabricators) than men. We are not trying to be rude and are actually trying to be accommodating in most cases to benefit the greater good. A great deal of arguments can be avoided if women understood that men sometimes just do not know what to say.
The Educational Gap: Whose Fault Is It?
The educational gap is not a new phenomenon to anyone who exists within the confines of America. African Americans have naturally been behind educationally since it was up to the slave masters as to when, what, and how much education we should receive. Historically, the very little education that we obtained was basically taught to us by others who barely had enough educational acumen to teach. This was both morally and socially inadequate, unfair, and self-serving to keep African Americans in a state of illiteracy and dependency upon our counterparts in order to survive. Knowledgeable African Americans were considered to be dangerous and this idea of danger among those that are enlightened still perpetuates today.
Regions that are predominately African American continue to have the worst schools and they cyclically perform atrociously on “standardized’ tests. People are taken aback to meet an intelligent, articulate, and well educated African American. The term “articulate” was used to describe Barack Obama as if it is impossible for African Americans to be educationally coherent. President Bush passed the “No Child Left Behind Act” with the intentions of closing the educational gap, but the legislation has been to no avail. So who is to blame for this drastic educational gap whereas African Americans are left to feel like they have work twice as hard to achieve the same benefits in life as their White counterparts. We can blame the parents, the schools, and the government. But are any of them really to blame or is it the combination of all parties? If these entities are to blame, then how do we explain the difference between African Americans from the same societal and economical background that have risen up and surpass their White counterparts and those that have not?
Mission Impossible
Success vs. Family
Many people desire to be successful in their occupational endeavors, and many of them believe they can achieve this goal while raising a successful family. The unfortunate reality is that it is quite difficult to accomplish both without one of these very blessed goals spiraling out of control. Each of them requires a vast amount of time that either you do not have or have to jeopardize something in order to meet its expectations. Many times the father works countless hours to become successful while the mother is at home trying to raise a successful family. A number of “career women” have decided to put aside the goal of raising a family until their professional happiness has been achieved. Many husbands and wives have gone astray while trying to satisfy their goals since the family is worn thin on the amount of time spent together and it is impossible to regain that precious time back. Very few people have been successful at doing both, but a significant number of people find it difficult to achieve success and family.
Why is it that we have to jeopardize family happiness to in order to meet occupational happiness or vice versa? What can we do to overcome the capitalistic mindset that has our families and our careers at odds?
